YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/SEX AND PROBLEMS OF DAILY LIVING: TIMELESS LOVING – TRY SOME SUPER SEX
Whenever you want time to slow down, try some super sex. Make sure you “make time” for this opportunity, then ignore time altogether. As I pointed out earlier, all sexual problems as described by the early sex perspectives were related to a timed orientation to sex. When we free ourselves of this limitation, we have all the time in the world for loving and living.
All disease relates to disorders of time. We are too rushed or too bored. We hurry or we feel trapped. When our blood rushes to keep up with the demands we place on it, our blood pressure goes up. When we eat too fast, our stomach gets sore. When we control time, we control illness.
Another point the couples raised regarding “time for sex” was the issue of priorities. When we divide our life ihto segments, few of which are related to what we really want to do, we find ourselves watching the clock for “permission” to finally “do our own thing.” If we are clear on our priorities, and most of what we do relates to what we want to be doing, time ceases to be the single controlling factor.
I have presented papers at conferences on substance abuse and the relationship between my work with sexuality and drug use. I report that my interviews indicate that much, if not most, of the substanace abuse I have heard about from my respondents relates to their attempts to “buy time,” to stretch out and intensify life experience. Even if they seek a “rush,” it seems to be in the attempt to get more out of every moment. Perhaps if we all learned to listen for the ticks of our internal clocks, we could take time into our own hands. We could be the hands of time.
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